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How to Plan a Romantic Date Night at Home

Make the time to reconnect with your lover

Tracy Block Staff Reporter
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Planning a romantic evening where the intention is to connect erotically and emotionally is more important than ever.
- Dr. Britney Blair, Lover app co-founder


Traditional date nights may be off the table during the pandemic, but that is no reason to ditch much-needed quality time with your spouse. Although you may be feeling stir-crazy while spending more time at home (and with each other), it’s important to keep the spark alive with date night – at home.

To illustrate, a report published by NationalMarriageProject.org revealed “couple time” leads to longer, happier, more satisfying relationships. If you’re unsure of how to go about curating couples’ time, consider the below guide to planning a rewarding date night from home.

Why You Need a Date Night – ASAP

Dr. Britney Blair is a clinical psychologist board-certified in sexual medicine, as well as the co-founder of the Lover app, which launched on Valentine’s Day 2020, and focuses on relationship and sex life improvement. Dr. Blair says she was inspired to launch the app following a graduate school workshop that revealed 1 in 2 women and 1 in 3 men have problems with their sexual health. “And then I learned how effective treatment interventions are and how quickly they can make a positive difference,” says Dr. Blair. “I knew in that moment this was going to be my life's work – helping people optimize their sexual health and feel more connected to themselves and their lovers.”

Now, more than ever, date night from home should be a top priority for couples. Dr. Blair shares that in times of stress, 85% of people report a decreased libido. However, she says we need apartness or separateness in order to fuel the erotic. “And, this is difficult when at home all the time. So, planning a romantic evening where the intention is to connect erotically and emotionally is more important than ever.” How often should date night occur? “My general rule of thumb is every 72 hours,” Dr. Blair says. “Much longer than that, and you can grow erotically disconnected.”

Creative At-Home Date Night Ideas

Not all date nights are created equal – especially those curated from home. Preferences may range from outdoor time to cooking together and spa nights to artsy evenings. If you’re pressed for ideas, consider:

• A picnic under the stars: All you need are some light bites and beverages. Add a cozy blanket, some pillows, and, of course, mood music to the mix.

• A nighttime swim: Light candles around the edge of your pool for a romantic touch to an evening (swimsuit-optional) dip.

• Alfresco movie night: If you’re tech-savvy, project a movie in your backyard, and snuggle up with an array of gourmet snacks and cocktails.

• Zoom cooking classes: For foodies, you can book a private couples' cooking or baking class, and then enjoy the fruits of your labor.

• Couples spa date: Take a warm and soothing bubble bath together. Then, transform your bedroom into a luxury suite with rose petals and aromatics, and take turns with custom massages for one another.

• Have a paint party: If you enjoy the arts, gather some paints, brushes, and canvases for a creative night. For something more personal, perhaps paint portraits of each other.

• Game night: In addition to offering light fun, games are both stimulating for the mind and can help strengthen your communication skills as a couple.

How to Plan a Bubbly Flight Date Night

According to Fred Dex, master sommelier and founder of the online wine tasting platform, Taste Like a Master, “a glass of bubbles a day keeps the therapist away!” Dex says that bubbles themselves are energetic and frisky, which makes for the ideal mood builder to kick off the perfect evening – expressly in times like these. “The moment you open a bottle of bubbly, especially with the one you love, a spark is bound to happen,” Dex explains. “Sparkling wines, in general, set the mood for a romantic evening because they pair well with all types of food.”

Furthermore, Dex believes that bubbly doesn’t always need to be top-dollar. In fact, you can enjoy affordable sparkling pours in different varietals, from various wine regions around the globe. “While Champagne is the North Star of the sparkling wine world, there’s a rainbow of producers, styles, flavors, colors, and textures, and all are sure to please the palate,” he shares. “Splurge on real Champagne when you can, but don’t be afraid to try Cava, Prosecco, and Crémant; and now is a great time to try domestic bubbly coming from all over the US.”

Moreover, given the strict shelter-in-place conditions we’ve been living in, Dex says it couldn’t be a better time in our lives to experiment with different kinds of bubbly. Whether you’re a seasoned oenophile or an occasional wine imbiber, a bubbly flight can help enhance the romance needed for an at-home date night. To start, Dex says to select 3 different sparkling wines. First, begin with an entry-level Prosecco, or domestic sparkling wine of non-vintage (NV) for under $25. Next, look for a Sparkling Rosé in the $25 to $30 range. Finally, go all-out with a Vintage Brut Champagne at $50 or more.

Then, it’s time to select the food. “Order 3 styles of classic take-out,” says Dex, like flavorful Chinese food, wood-fired pizza, and fresh sushi. Make sure all of your sparkling wine is chilled, and then enjoy one glass each, per person. Dex also shares that “the pros” typically drink champagne out of white wine glasses – not champagne flutes (larger pours – hint, hint).

If 3 glasses of bubbly is a bit overwhelming with one meal, feel free to stretch the pours throughout the night. “Many people don’t know that sparkling wine is the secret weapon that pairs with all sorts and styles of food, and it goes with great music and movies, to boot!” So, feel free to enjoy one glass with dinner, a second glass with a movie, and perhaps your final pour while having a nourishing soak – in the pool or the bathtub – together. “And, crank up the Barry White!” Dex adds.

Your Bubbly Buying Guide

When shopping, “don’t be afraid of sparkling wine; there’s so much to explore,” says Dex. In fact, Dex recommends a variety of bubbly selects to help you curate your date night flight. Consider mixing and matching some of the following recommendations:

• Graham Beck Rosé 2014 ($30) – Grown in the Western Cape of South Africa, enjoy a blend of 85% Pinot Noir and 15% Chardonnay that undergo a unique co-pressing process as whole bunches. The salmon-pink hue is complemented by ripe berries and a subtle spiciness, along with a creamy, complex mouthfeel.

• Hahn Winery Selection 2016 Blanc de Noir ($55) – This bottle is 100% Pinot Noir with aromas of raspberry, pear, and cherry, which are accompanied by hints of vanilla. Vibrant red fruits and floral notes lead to a lasting finish with bright acidity.

• 2017 Biltmore Estate Brut ($30) – For a sunset pour outside, this sparkling, dry wine is refreshing and tantalizing. Made from a blend of Chardonnay, Pinot Noir, and Pinot Meunier grapes, this is a well-rounded bottle to pop for date night.

• Steenberg Sparkling Sauvignon Blanc ($18) – Continue your exploration of South Africa with a unique pour. This Sauvignon Blanc bubbly is made using traditional production methods, with the second fermentation in the bottle.

• Chronic Cellars Spritz & Giggles ($15) – A lighter selection, this pour pairs perfectly with Asian fare. So, if you plan on ordering sushi, Thai, or Chinese, save this one for delicious take-out. 

As 1 couple, you are not expected to polish off the 3 bottles chosen for your wine flight. To preserve, Dex recommends investing in a decent wine stopper to plug your bottles, which will give you 2 to 3 extra days. Additionally, you can deglaze a sauté pan while cooking fish or chicken, or even freeze your leftover bubbly into an ice tray and use the frozen cubes in a glass of juice for brunch or to jazz up an afternoon spritz. 


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